In 2002 I was first introduced to Buddhist Psychology. At the time, the practice and study was little known in colleges, and usually only within the Jungian tradition, or through Erich Fromm, D.T. Suzuki, and Richard De Martino's groundbreaking, 1970 text, Zen Buddhism and Psychoanalysis. Undergraduate courses on the subject were not common, and the idea of the Eastern scientific method was not well received by the positivist social science model. The area of study had only a handful of texts and small pockets of practitioners in the West.
Today the scene is different. Partly due to popularization by thinkers including Alan Watts, the Dalai Lama, and numerous scholars of psychotherapy and Buddhism; lectures, seminars, courses, and graduate programs of study are not uncommon. Most recently have been books by Mark Epstein, Jeremy Safran, and Dan Arnold. Courses have been appearing not only in graduate programs of study (Naropa University), but also in undergraduate course offerings in psychology (UC Berkeley).
When I first studied Buddhist psychology, while at The New School, I found the teachings to be life-enriching, transformational, and understandable. It wasn't long before I was introducing students to the concepts of Buddhist psychology. Those students have asked me to replicate some of those lectures, and I get a steady flow of E-mails from those who are inquiring on to which books, lectures, and thinkers to consult. To this end, I have decided to post some of the teachings here.
One of the classic teachings in Buddhist psychology comes from Langri Thangpa, an 11th Century Tibetan Buddhist. Written in eight verses, the poem offers guidance in "training the mind". We might understand these as lessons in how to deal with the difficult situations of life, in a productive and self-enhancing way. Popularized by the Dalai Lama in his Central Park Lecture of 1999, the eight verses offer a paradoxical approach to dealing with difficulties with others and with ourselves. First I will present the text in its entirety, and then I will offer my own experience of each verse.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind
by Langri Thangpa
- With a determination to accomplish the highest welfare for all sentient beings who surpass even a wish-granting jewel I will learn to hold them supremely dear.
- Whenever I associate with others I will learn to think of myself as the lowest among all And respectfully hold others to be supreme from the very depths of my heart.
- In all actions I will learn to search into my mind and as soon as an afflictive emotion arises endangering myself and others will firmly face and avert it.
- I will learn to cherish beings of bad nature and those oppressed by strong sins and suffering as if I had found a precious treasure very difficult to find.
- When others out of jealousy treat me badly with abuse, slander, and so on, I will learn to take on all loss, and offer victory to them.
- When one whom I have benefited with great hope unreasonably hurts me very badly, I will learn to view that person as an excellent spiritual guide.
- In short, I will learn to offer to everyone without exception all help and happiness directly and indirectly and respectfully take upon myself all harm and suffering of my mothers.
- I will learn to keep all these practices undefiled by the stains of the eight worldly conceptions and by understanding all phenomena as like illusions be released from the bondage of attachment.
Mind training, in Buddhism, is a practical guide for interpersonal communication and an opportunity for self exploration. Each of the eight "teachings" is a method for transforming negative transactions into positive exchanges, and recognizing defensiveness as the chance for growth and a better understanding of self.
In the Buddhist tradition, it is taught that defensiveness is an opportunity for learning about oneself. What this means is that, when we become defensive, in reaction to another person's comment, it is usually because that comment is bringing to our attention something that we do not want to believe to be true about ourselves. In fact, it is not unlike being introduced to something in ourselves that disturbs us when we realize that others can "see through" the mask, armor, or façade that we have put on. The principle rests on the belief that we only become emotionally defensive when we are not secure with the accusation of the suggestion, albeit at an unconscious level. Some students find this to be a difficult concept to grasp, or accept, but, when one does come to accept this as fundamental, a world of self-discovery becomes available.
- With a determination to accomplish the highest welfare for all sentient beings who surpass even a wish-granting jewel I will learn to hold them supremely dear.
This lesson, the simplest to understand, might be the most difficult to achieve. It is a commitment to hold people to be the most precious of all things, more valuable than any fortune or jewel.
- Whenever I associate with others I will learn to think of myself as the lowest among all and respectfully hold others to be supreme from the very depths of my heart.
This, a very challenging instruction, is not to diminish one's own self-value to others in a narcissistic masochism, but rather, to make everyone we meet feel special, important, and like a gift. This often means acknowledging and praising them, rather than proving one's own importance.
- In all actions I will learn to search into my mind and as soon as an afflictive emotion arises endangering myself and others will firmly face and avert it.
This lesson works well for depression, anger, desire, and revenge. It tells us to remain attentive to our emotions, and to become aware, and reverse these negative feelings, as soon as they begin in us. If they are left to form they will become too strong to control. This lesson teaches us to monitor our feelings and the importance of timely reversal of negative feelings.
- I will learn to cherish beings of bad nature and those oppressed by strong sins and suffering as if I had found a precious treasure very difficult to find.
This teaching, perhaps the most paradoxical of the eight, teaches us that those whom we find the most despicable; the thieves, liars, and predators, are the ones most in need of care, love, and our compassionate attention. The teaching encourages us not to despise these people, but to take pity on them and help them to govern themselves.
- When others out of jealousy treat me badly with abuse, slander, and so on, I will learn to take on all loss, and offer victory to them.
When someone treats you poorly out of jealousy, give them praise and the spotlight. They are fueled by a strong sense of inferiority that can only be conquered through others lifting them up, rather than beating them down.
- In short, I will learn to offer to everyone without exception all help and happiness directly and indirectly and respectfully take upon myself all harm and suffering of my mothers.
The gist here is that by helping others, we make the world better for ourselves too. Rather than resenting our neighbor for not picking up the doggy-duty on the sidewalk, we help them by picking it up ourselves. In so doing, we make the world better for ourselves, others, and set an example for the person who left it.
- I will learn to keep all these practices undefiled by the stains of the eight worldly conceptions and by understanding all phenomena as like illusions be released from the bondage of attachment.
Finally, this is a commitment to remind ourselves, daily, of these eight laws of interaction with ourselves and others. An obligation to remain faithful to these teachings in order make our lives, and the lives of others, more bearable.